The One Question I Hate Being Asked

We’ve all been there. You’re sitting at a gathering, chatting with friends, or maybe just minding your business, and then that question comes up—the one that makes your skin crawl. You know the one I’m talking about. We all have it. It’s the question that sparks a mix of irritation and discomfort, and you find yourself wondering why people keep asking it.

For me, that question is: “What’s next?”

It sounds innocent enough, right? But here’s the thing “What’s next?” has a way of stirring up anxiety. It’s not just a question; it feels like an expectation. Whether I’ve just completed a project, reached a milestone, or made a small achievement, there it is, lurking in the shadows. “What’s next?” asks not only about my plans but also implies that what I just did might not be enough.

Why Is This Question So Frustrating?

1. It Disregards the Present
We live in a fast-paced world where we’re constantly pushed to chase the next goal. But what about now? What about celebrating the moment? Sometimes, I want to bask in my recent accomplishments without feeling the pressure to leap into the next challenge.


2. It Assumes Clarity
The truth is, I don’t always know what’s next and that’s okay! Life isn’t a straight line, and sometimes the path forward is a bit foggy. Not having the perfect answer doesn’t mean I’m lost; it means I’m taking my time.


3. It Can Undermine Achievement
Imagine running a marathon and crossing the finish line, only to have someone immediately ask, “So, when’s the next one?” It steals the joy of the victory lap.



A Better Approach: Let’s Talk About Now

Instead of asking, “What’s next?” how about:

“What are you most proud of right now?”

“What did you learn from your recent experience?”

“How do you feel about where you are?”


These questions allow space to reflect, celebrate, and appreciate the journey. They invite meaningful conversations and encourage living in the moment.

My Response to “What’s Next?”

These days, I’ve learned to handle this question with a smile and a bit of humor. I might say something like, “I’m thinking of becoming a professional napper—heard there’s a real market for that!” But deep down, I know that my real answer is this: “I’m taking it one step at a time, and right now, I’m exactly where I need to be.”

The Takeaway

If you find yourself on the receiving end of a question that makes you uncomfortable, it’s okay to set boundaries or gently redirect the conversation. And if you’re the one asking, try to lead with curiosity and kindness. The best questions are the ones that leave room for joy and growth—right where we are.

What’s the one question you hate being asked? Let’s talk about it in the comments!